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This does not mean everything is wrong…


14 hours in my car, just me and road, and I finally saw the skyline of maybe my favorite American city, Denver. It is 5:00pm and I was sitting in bumper to bumper traffic watching the sunset over the mountains that line the city. Curiously, watching all the other drivers. Some of them, I can tell, are just as enamored as I am with the sun setting. Others are talking or texting on their phones. While others have a look and feel of exhaustion from a long day of work or play. I spend moments imagining their moves on ski’s as they blow down mountains covered in new powder or the others who sit behind a computer and type away all day, similar to how I am now.

Wondering what excites them, if they love living here, and what their deepest desires are.

Finally I reached my destination and my car turned off sighing with the same vigor I did grateful we made it. My first stop in the city is my favorite dive bar. A bullet bourbon neat is my first date to settle in and celebrate being exactly where I want to be.

I walked in and my favorite bartender was there. He sees me and I see him and both of our faces went from autopilot to connection and love.

I sat. He brought me a whiskey remembering exactly what I drink. We did some small talk. Then I sat. Silent. Just being. Watching the city lights flash outside the bar doors. Enjoying the dim lighting and the strangers that come and go.

This was also the predetermined meeting spot of my friend Jackie who I was meeting in the city. She arrived and then another beautiful friend of ours arrived and we all sat. As we sat my exhaustion began to hit.  It was the altitude, 14 hours of driving, and the whiskey all at once. I quickly bolted because I knew I had to go to bed. I walked all the way back to my Air BnB and entered the dream realm. Sacking out until morning. Waking up refreshed but also feeling weird.

I felt weird because I couldn’t be social and I had to leave.  I felt weird because usually I am the life of the party and love being around people and I just reached a point where I couldn’t do it. I also am a people pleaser. Which translates into worrying about what people think about me and wanting to act in ways that ensures people will still like me or see the value of me.

Thoughts began to circulate.

‘Oh man am I not supposed to be here?’

‘Is this how the entire trip is going to be?’

‘Is this all wrong?’

I recognized I was going down the rabbit hole…

Then I paused. I breathed. Then I sat. I sat in how I was feeling. Waiting for clarity.

Then it hit me. When one thing doesn’t go how you want it to go it does not mean everything else is going to go that way. One thing does not equate everything. 

YES, I thought. Just because I had a weird moment it does not mean that everything is going to be weird or bad. It just means I felt weird. It just means I had to go to bed. It does not mean anything else. I am not the thoughts that are trying to sabotage the rest of my trip. I am not the thoughts that are trying to make me believe that the rest of my trip is going to be just as weird as my first night.

I could let these thoughts color and create the rest of my experience here.  And I deeply believe this is how many people create a reality of suffering. They let one thing color everything. One thing begins to go ‘wrong’ and then they believe and live in the reality that everything else is going wrong or is going to go wrong.

Do you ever find yourself doing this? Allowing one thing in your life color everything else in your life?

In these moments can you remember all of the good that is also in your life? All of the things that are working or that you love?

When I paused I got clear about what my true reality was: I am in a city I love, I am with one my best friends, and I have a whole week to do whatever I want.

Am I really going to let one night of being exhausted destroy this trip? Hell no. 

We can’t always control the things that happen in our lives, aka, my exhaustion. What we can control is how we react to them. What we can control is how we allow situations to affect us. What we can control is how we move forward.

The next time something happens in your life that isn’t ideal and you notice that you are letting it turn your whole day or worse your whole life into the shits, pause, ask yourself what are the things that are amazing in my life? What about today is not shitty? How can I shift and move on just as the situations, thoughts, and feelings do in my life?

Now it is your turn. I want to hear from you! Where do you do this in your life? What did this blog bring up for you? Please share all your thoughts below in the comments and also if you are so called share these words with anyone you believe could use them.

From the mile high city,



How to connect with yourself…

First take a moment to take a deep breath.

Not just a normal deep breath. But a breath that you can feel in the tips of your toes.

Now all I want you to do is push play the music video below. If you are in public place you might want to have ear phones and to close your eyes.

My only advice to you is to listen to this song with an open mind. Listen to it as if you this song was written for you and to you. So many times we hear ‘love’ songs and our mind goes to someone we once loved or someone we love. Today I want you to listen to this love song as if you wrote it for yourself.

Now close your eyes and listen to each word. Allow the words to penetrate you. To change you. To alter you in this moment.


Please share below what came up for you. And if you feel anyone else could use these words please share them!!

You are so loved,



Get yo’ sexy back…

“I love that you live on a farm.” – Friend

“Really, why?” – Me

“You bring style to the farm”. – Friend

This conversation and comment struck a huge desire in me. I love fashion. I love style. I love my style. I love wearing clothes that make me feel amazing. In fact I love feeling amazing.

With this same friend I sparked in him the ability to wear clothes that he had always dreamed of wearing but never quite knew how to start doing it.

Something I want to spark in people is how to be more themselves. Whatever that looks like. Maybe that means literally fashion. Maybe it means exposing their more silly side. Maybe it means being able to express themselves more truly and openly to those they love or strangers. Whatever.

I realize that it takes me a long time to open up. To be vulnerable. To share.

Brene Brown shares about the importance of vulnerability here…

I am currently on a mission to always be my most true/whole self.

“How can I be more myself?” “How can I be more myself?”

This means in how I dress.

In how I speak.

In how I love.

In how I share myself.

In how I treat others.


This is what I notice when I most myself:

Everything shifts…

I feel more at peace.

I experience more connection.

There are more good days than bad.

I feel sexy as hell.

I more easily love others because I am so brilliantly loving myself.

I walk with my shoulders up right and head held high.

People share themselves with me more.

I get more compliments.

I feel all around amazing!!

Signs I am not being fully myself:

Feeling exhausted or anxious.

Throat or neck pain. (Signs you are stifling your voice)

Starting to not ‘care’ about what I look like (I don’t mean this superficially I mean this in a way where you literally do not care how you are representing yourself when you leave your home)

Feeling dread about getting up and starting my day

Not taking care of myself… feeling numb or lackluster about life

Angered or agitated easily

Feeling extremely lonely

Ways to get back to being yourself or get yo’ sexy back!

First step is to notice when you don’t feel like yourself… then take action and try these things:

Put on your favorite outfit.

Take time to get ready. Leave the house feeling amazing about yourself.

Sitting alone with myself. Quiet.

Exercising. But doing it in a way that feels amazing!!!

Ask yourself this question: if I truly were taking care of myself and loved myself what would I do today to prove that to myself and the world?

Do something different. Drive a different way to work. Say hello the cute barista and smile.

Call someone you love and miss and tell them about yourself and your life.

Ask out the man/woman you have been dying to ask out.

Ask for help and let someone give it to you.

Sing a little too loud.

Dance like no one is watching.

Notice people. Make eye contact. Share with them something you love about them. Their shirt, eyes, smile.

Do something that you know makes you feel amazing.

Take 10 deep breaths.

Share something about your life with someone you don’t know. Create connection.


Life is what we make it. Honor where you are and know that you have the power to change your circumstances.

You are the change you want to be in the world. So what are you representing as you walk through life. Are you representing love for life or a feeling of resignation? Are you representing connection or disconnection? Are you representing self-love or self-loathing?

What do you want to be the walking example of on this planet?

Choosing to be yourself, truly is a moment by moment choice. There isn’t a quick fix. It is choosing to do things that make you feel more you and amazing every single day. It is a process of knowing yourself.

I would love to hear your thoughts. I would love to hear the techniques that send you back into being more yourself in the world. I would love to hear how you step back into your light. I would also love to hear your stories of struggle around this subject. Please share whatever your heart is begging of you to share.

Also if this is something you have always struggled with and you want to know yourself more so that you can truly be yourself in your relationships, in your career, and in the world… please reach out to me. I would love to schedule a time to talk. The world NEEDS and WANTS YOU. The real you. Not some fake version of you. Email me @ kimberly@revolutionarylivinginstitute.com

To owning your sexy and your true self,



I totally forgot about this…

I have been creating chaos in my life for months now…

Quite honestly I had no idea why…

Feeling anxious and overwhelmed became a common theme in my daily existence. Starting fights with the people I loved the most. Feeling like I don’t know what to do next and fear of making all the wrong decisions…

Then today I was talking to my soul sister Heather that I just married in the Muir Woods in California…

…this picture pretty much describes the whole wedding…

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and she said to me four words that reminded me of something so important in life… maybe the main ingredient in having an amazing life…

Kimberly just have fun. Be playful.

Oh thank goodness… these words felt like a life saver was thrown out to me while I was about to give up and drown at sea… (a little dramatic… but seriously).

I have been living in my fears of the future and totally taking life WAY TOO SERIOUSLY.

Life isn’t as serious as we make it out to be. It is okay I forget too…all the time. This time I forgot for a long, long time. Like deep in the dark trenches forgot. Making everyone around me miserable. Like truly miserable.

If you are one of those people thank you for sticking by me, giving me advice, listening…

I don’t really have much more to say because I am going to go have fun…

Fuck being serious… fun is must more sexy.

Ideas for having more fun:

Silly youtube videos

Make new recipes

Invite a new friend for drinks

Dancing to your favorite music

Running like Phoebe, from Friends, in the woods

Get all dolled up and take yourself to dinner

Zumba class

Girlfriend hangout

Making up raps about your favorite things in life

Laying on a blanket in the sunshine humming your favorite song

Visualizing everything you want in life coming true

Loving on someone you truly care about

Challenge someone to a pushup contest in your office or really anywhere

What are things you can do to have more fun and be less serious?

I would love to hear them… share below! Share this blog with anyone you think could use more fun in their life, we all need a reminder sometimes!!



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