It’s dark because you are trying too hard.
Lightly child, lightly. Learn to do everything lightly.
Yes, feel lightly even though you’re feeling deeply.
Just lightly let things happen and lightly cope with them.
I was so preposterously serious in those days, such a humorless little prig.
Lightly, lightly – it’s the best advice ever given me.
When it comes to dying even. Nothing ponderous, or portentous, or emphatic.
No rhetoric, no tremolos,
no self conscious persona putting on its celebrated imitation of Christ or Little Nell.
And of course, no theology, no metaphysics.
Just the fact of dying and the fact of the clear light.
So throw away your baggage and go forward.
There are quicksands all about you, sucking at your feet,
trying to suck you down into fear and self-pity and despair.
That’s why you must walk so lightly.
Lightly my darling,
on tiptoes and no luggage,
not even a sponge bag,
― Aldous Huxley
I have a tendency at times in my life to use intense effort to do things, get things done, or to feel okay.
I am also prone to be harsh with myself. To judge myself easily. To talk to myself in demanding, demeaning ways. To expect more out of myself than I would ever expect out of anyone else.
I have in some way convinced myself (or society has convinced me) that this is how I will get more done or become the person I know I really am. This is how I will grow my business. This is how I will get better at yoga. This is how I will become more spiritual. I have told myself that this is the way to get what I want. It will happen through pushing myself hard, hard, and harder or through struggle.
I also see that at times I try to manipulate situations so that I can get what I want. Using effort to have my life and things in my life feel ok. This pattern shows up most in my relationships. Manipulating the relationship so that I don’t have to be alone. Or not having the hard conversations so that I can stay in the relationship a little bit longer… maybe this time it will work.
But lately the messages I have been receiving are more towards tenderness, lightness, and gentleness.
How can I be more gentle and tender with myself?
How can I tread more lightly as I walk on this Earth? Physically. In my impact. In my voice. In my effort. Everything.
How can I use less effort and dance more with the flow of life?
Do you find yourself feeling like life is harder than you think it needs to be? If so, how can you soften? How can you be a little lighter in your walk today?
Can you make your breathes longer today? Inhaling on a 5 count and exhaling on a 7 count.
Can you drive the speed limit? Allowing yourself to be late if you are going to be late.
Can you walk like a grasshopper and not like an elephant? Noticing every step.
Can you be present when you talk to your children or spouse?
Can you look someone in the eyes when you speak to them?
Can you enjoy your favorite song, singing every word and letting it penetrate your being?
Can you go lightly my darling?
I would love to hear what comes up for you when you read this. Please if you are so called share anything and all things that resonate or want to be shared. Also if you feel moved share these words with anyone you think could benefit from them!