“I love that you live on a farm.” – Friend
“Really, why?” – Me
“You bring style to the farm”. – Friend
This conversation and comment struck a huge desire in me. I love fashion. I love style. I love my style. I love wearing clothes that make me feel amazing. In fact I love feeling amazing.
With this same friend I sparked in him the ability to wear clothes that he had always dreamed of wearing but never quite knew how to start doing it.
Something I want to spark in people is how to be more themselves. Whatever that looks like. Maybe that means literally fashion. Maybe it means exposing their more silly side. Maybe it means being able to express themselves more truly and openly to those they love or strangers. Whatever.
I realize that it takes me a long time to open up. To be vulnerable. To share.
Brene Brown shares about the importance of vulnerability here…
I am currently on a mission to always be my most true/whole self.
“How can I be more myself?” “How can I be more myself?”
This means in how I dress.
In how I speak.
In how I love.
In how I share myself.
In how I treat others.
This is what I notice when I most myself:
I feel more at peace.
I experience more connection.
There are more good days than bad.
I feel sexy as hell.
I more easily love others because I am so brilliantly loving myself.
I walk with my shoulders up right and head held high.
People share themselves with me more.
I get more compliments.
I feel all around amazing!!
Signs I am not being fully myself:
Feeling exhausted or anxious.
Throat or neck pain. (Signs you are stifling your voice)
Starting to not ‘care’ about what I look like (I don’t mean this superficially I mean this in a way where you literally do not care how you are representing yourself when you leave your home)
Feeling dread about getting up and starting my day
Not taking care of myself… feeling numb or lackluster about life
Angered or agitated easily
Feeling extremely lonely
Ways to get back to being yourself or get yo’ sexy back!
First step is to notice when you don’t feel like yourself… then take action and try these things:
Put on your favorite outfit.
Take time to get ready. Leave the house feeling amazing about yourself.
Sitting alone with myself. Quiet.
Exercising. But doing it in a way that feels amazing!!!
Ask yourself this question: if I truly were taking care of myself and loved myself what would I do today to prove that to myself and the world?
Do something different. Drive a different way to work. Say hello the cute barista and smile.
Call someone you love and miss and tell them about yourself and your life.
Ask out the man/woman you have been dying to ask out.
Ask for help and let someone give it to you.
Sing a little too loud.
Dance like no one is watching.
Notice people. Make eye contact. Share with them something you love about them. Their shirt, eyes, smile.
Do something that you know makes you feel amazing.
Take 10 deep breaths.
Share something about your life with someone you don’t know. Create connection.
Life is what we make it. Honor where you are and know that you have the power to change your circumstances.
You are the change you want to be in the world. So what are you representing as you walk through life. Are you representing love for life or a feeling of resignation? Are you representing connection or disconnection? Are you representing self-love or self-loathing?
What do you want to be the walking example of on this planet?
Choosing to be yourself, truly is a moment by moment choice. There isn’t a quick fix. It is choosing to do things that make you feel more you and amazing every single day. It is a process of knowing yourself.
I would love to hear your thoughts. I would love to hear the techniques that send you back into being more yourself in the world. I would love to hear how you step back into your light. I would also love to hear your stories of struggle around this subject. Please share whatever your heart is begging of you to share.
Also if this is something you have always struggled with and you want to know yourself more so that you can truly be yourself in your relationships, in your career, and in the world… please reach out to me. I would love to schedule a time to talk. The world NEEDS and WANTS YOU. The real you. Not some fake version of you. Email me @ firstname.lastname@example.org
To owning your sexy and your true self,